As attorneys and counselors at law we do not view our role as simply a seller of divorce services. We have turned some people away; suggested counseling and those couples are still together today. We assess your situation and let you know if we think you have alternatives. Counseling with a licensed professional counselor is an essential step if you want to try to preserve your marriage. Be aware both partners must be willing open participants. Usually by the time someone is seeking the counsel of a divorce attorney the opportunity for marriage counseling is over. If we feel there is any chance to preserve a marriage and our client wants to try to do so we will refer you to professional counselors.

 

If you want to proceed with the divorce you may still want to obtain counseling services. Often the wounds inflicted by our failed relationship require assistance to heal. As a word of caution the things you tell the counselor can end up in a court of law. Do not believe that the information is privileged and therefore safe. A court order can force the turn over of your records.

 

We strongly believe counseling is important. Personal counseling will let you identify the issues you have related to relationships. Too often we see a spouse divorce an abusive person only to remarry another person with the same abusive attributes. We firmly believe that divorce that divorce should be viewed as on e segment of a larger overall life change and that counseling has a very important roll in this process.

 

Children are often the innocent victims of a broken marriage. Children are not sure what to do with their feelings about mom and dad. Sometimes they blame themselves for the divorce. They tend to view their world as one that has both mom and dad living together in the marital home. When you divorce you have changed their vision of their world and often anxiety and despair flow from that. All too frequently parents try to draw their children into the fight. They reveal things about a spouse that should not be revealed to a child, poison a child against the other parent, or try to make them take sides. This can be viewed as an attempt at alienation of a child and can be used against you in a custody battle. A child’s stress is as real as an adult. Divorce is not the time for a parent to selfishly draw children into the fray but a time to be an adult parent and support and nurture the child. Getting your children through the divorce process-in tact- is the essential role for a divorcing parent.

 

 

 

 

            Divorce is an emotionally trying and complicated process. That is why we will strive to become familiar with the personalities, facts, and circumstances of your case. Our law firm’s size assures you not only of affordable and personal attention, but also of discretion and respect for your matter.